With being Childfree, I think back to how poorly my dad treated me, at times, and now this is a big reason why I don't want to put a child through similar unfortunate circumstances.
Could I do better than my dad in raising a child? Maybe, maybe not. But, I'm not going to put a child through my "experiment" in order to find out.
My dad had 5 children, I was the third (3rd) born. I don't want to end up like my dad, sure, some things he did right - but he also made some decisions that I didn't like, one of them being; having a big family.
I found, that being a part of a big family was stressful - not due to any one person, but it (big families) have a more complex dynamic structure to them. Brothers get in physical fights with each other, brothers and sisters harass each other, parents yell at their children (for various reasons). Kids can put their parents through strife, and vise versa.
Big families are not all about "love, affection, peace, kindness, etc." Families, especially large families, also come with some hatred/resentments - sure, they aren't always expressed, but how many men do you know, who resent their dads? Why? Because their dads, at times, put them through HELL! So to speak.
Fathers yell at their kids, some even beat or molest their children. So, is the family all about good and "flowery" things? No way!
Thanks dad for teaching me a valuable lesson...what I DON'T want to do with my life. I'm grateful to my dad for that!
Monday, April 9, 2012
The Kingdom
It's my understanding: that God couldn't care less how many warm bodies are on the planet - because all God wants are disciples.
I quote Pastor and Theologian, John Piper, in his youtube video about families. His video is titled, "God Promises Better Blessings for Singles." Interesting title, but the quote relates to what I'm talking about. The quote he said, that I hold fast to and believe, "The Kingdom of Heaven, grows not through propagation through sexual intercourse, but by regeneration through faith in Christ..." This quote is mentioned at about 0:50 in the video time.
With that said, I still have more to say about being a Childfree Christian.
Most people, it seems to me, do not dwell on existential philosophies, they just mate and reproduce like rabbits. Are there any parents who have thoroughly weighed their decision to become parents? Or did they just come into their position as parents through a sense of obligation to God, parents, friends, or society? Or worse, did they merely become parents due to a brief moment of unexpected passion? I'm betting that many parents are the latter two, unfortunately.
I quote Pastor and Theologian, John Piper, in his youtube video about families. His video is titled, "God Promises Better Blessings for Singles." Interesting title, but the quote relates to what I'm talking about. The quote he said, that I hold fast to and believe, "The Kingdom of Heaven, grows not through propagation through sexual intercourse, but by regeneration through faith in Christ..." This quote is mentioned at about 0:50 in the video time.
With that said, I still have more to say about being a Childfree Christian.
Most people, it seems to me, do not dwell on existential philosophies, they just mate and reproduce like rabbits. Are there any parents who have thoroughly weighed their decision to become parents? Or did they just come into their position as parents through a sense of obligation to God, parents, friends, or society? Or worse, did they merely become parents due to a brief moment of unexpected passion? I'm betting that many parents are the latter two, unfortunately.
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